“they hit you out of nowhere. when bad things come, they come suddenly, without warning. we rarely get to see the catastrophe coming, no matter how well we try to prepare for it…
I’ve seen better days. My plans of completing all my exams this week flamed brilliantly. My class schedule is a disaster. And I’m in so much pain after a poorly misguided individual mistook me for someone with money. I now have a ghastly gash across my forehead, whose origin varies depending on who I am talking to. My Person found me on Tuesday morning, ~8 hours after the incident, slumped against a wall and covered in my own blood, Carrie-style. All my attempts to fix these problems have resulted in failure. I prepared. I worked hard. I did everything I could, but it never seems to be enough.
I have been avoiding Mit after a monumental lapse fuck up that led to my fear of losing her and subsequent compounding of said error by another, albeit less monumental fuck up. I cannot lose something else right. But despite my best efforts, yesterday I nearly ran into her while she was walking up the main stairwell in AcBu, recognizing her only by her pants, I quickly diverted paths to another hallway before she could say anything. However, my efforts were in vain. I was standing in a cutout of the main 2nd floor hallway listened to a voicemail [[which is usually safe, I might add. Especially at 5:30pm]], I heard a shoe squeak and peaked my head out to take a look. Seeing Mit and her husband walking my way, I quickly ducked my head back and mumbled several expletives. There was no way to escape, so I painfully waited for them to walk past.
Mit stopped to say hello, as to be expected, and seeing me shoe-less joked that she knew they required closed-toed shoes, but… That made us all chuckle. I informed her that my shoes got wet in the rain and I was just waiting for them to dry. She then asked how I was doing and we both just kind of nodded for a couple of seconds before I replied that I was doing okay. She told me that she was going to be in her office tomorrow [[read: which is now today]] afternoon if I wanted to stop by to talk. I quickly nodded and she said that yeah, why don’t I just stop by tomorrow afternoon. She gave me a big hug, reminded me that she wouldn’t be in until the afternoon, and told me that if I needed flip flops to just let her know.
When I looked over to her husband, his face had softened, brows furrowed in concern and eyes tender, filled with empathy — a look I have not seen on his face before. I do not know him very well, but he has been there for a few of my worse seizures and was the one to alert Mit when I was seizing in the hallway, surrounded by EMS and staff members late last fall in 2017 [[which resulted in my first hospitalization. And that was before I was close to her]]. He is a kind, quiet man, but has always been friendly and considerate to me, no doubt aware of my situation in a large capacity, a likelihood I am perfectly fine with. But even so, I will never forget that look. And in that moment, even as they were leaving, I felt at peace. I felt safe; something I have not felt in quite some time. I no longer felt anxious and the nausea I have felt every day for the past several months was gone. It is then that I am starting to get it…I think I am beginning to understand that she cares—I mean genuinely feeling it, not just knowing it in my head. And that was just yesterday.
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Today at 10am I met with my Neuro adviser to discuss a class I desperately need to get into. I screwed up my registration last semester and couldn’t get the override paperwork turned in until 8am, but by that time it had already filled up. I’ve waited all summer trying to figure out what I was going to do when I realized that the class only had 23 spot for registration, but the classroom [[which is technically a lab]] has 24 seats. Long story short, I had to wait for registration to open up again, which was yesterday, and hope that I could slip in with this technicality.
My adviser was nice and funny, as always and after asking about how I was [[quickly answering for me by saying, “obviously not great”]], what had happened, and where my service dog was [[for him I answered honestly about housing and being jumped the other night, to which he closed his eyes and shook his head slowly]], he instantly offered to speak to the head of our biology and chemistry department and clear things up. We signed the form so he could take it right over to the registrar’s office if he got approval and said how much he hated that I just kept having to take additional bites of life’s shit sandwich [[best. analogy. ever.]]. I thanked him and went on my way. Not an hour later I received an email from him saying that the closed course override was submitted to the registrar and to check my schedule for confirmation. I am overwhelmed with happiness. Pure, unadulterated bliss. I was expecting a hard no or some other negative response, as has been the current trajectory of life. This good news came out of nowhere and I cannot stop smiling. The joy I feel is like coming up for a fresh breath of air after being trapped in the water. You forget what it feels like. How amazing it feels to be happy — for something to go right.
When I left his office, I told him that even though life has been one perpetual drawing of the short straw, I had a lot of faculty supporting me and that made all the difference. He quickly agreed, replying that I certainly had very strong advocates on my side. What a true statement that is.
Now here I sit. This is a feeling I never want to forget. These moments come so rarely now, I often forget they ever existed. I often forget that these moments are possible, especially when my whole world seems to be falling apart. These are the moments I want to remember. These are the moments I need to remember. That even though life continues to blindside me with endless problems and obstacles, sometimes it blindsides me with good moments that are powerful enough to overcome all the bad. Even though the feeling doesn’t last forever, that is what makes it even more potent and euphoric.
…we do our very best, but sometimes, it’s just not good enough. we buckle our seat belts, we wear a helmet, we stick to the lighted paths. we try to be safe. we try so hard to protect ourselves, but it doesn’t make a damn bit of difference, ’cause when the bad things come, they come out of nowhere. the bad things come suddenly, with no warning. but we forget that sometimes, that’s how the good things come too.“
— grey’s anatomy